Goddamnmotherfuckingshit

"Party-vi" (party-vi)
02/06/2015 at 10:28 • Filed to: None

I've had $500 in parts sitting in my house for weeks because my fiance thinks we have to fill every weekend with shit to do. Now I'm going to DC to taste appetizers for the wedding Saturday morning/afternoon, going to some restaurant Saturday evening to meet some old co-workers she vaguely remembers with her parents and Sunday I'm stuck watching my nieces. I guess I'll get the E46 back on the road when hell freezes over.

DISCUSSION (32)

Bob Loblaw Made Me Make a Phoney Phone Call to Edward Rooney > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 10:30

My wedding is in a month, I am right fucking there with you. The concept of needing to fill every weekend with shit to do is driving me nuts.

CKeffer > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 10:31

Lol, I feel your pain man. I got married last October, and lets just say there is a reason my miata has been on jack stands this long and I'm only now getting around to installing the new suspension.

OPPOsaurus WRX > Bob Loblaw Made Me Make a Phoney Phone Call to Edward Rooney
02/06/2015 at 10:31

good luck guys, just wait til your married and have kids. the only time alone i get is when i'm shitting

Party-vi > CKeffer
02/06/2015 at 10:32

Your story does not bode well for me.

The Real Dacia Sandero > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 10:33

Come on. Watching your nieces means you now have 2+ shop attendants. Opening beers, fetching tools, getting to parts that are difficult for people with actual sized hands.*

*Doing so may cause aggravation from spouse and inlaws.

RamblinRover Luxury-Yacht > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 10:34

This does not speak well of my competence, given that I've got some hundreds in parts that have been sitting for months, waiting for more hundreds to be spent and me to actually get some things apart, and I don't even have a girlfriend.

Party-vi > The Real Dacia Sandero
02/06/2015 at 10:37

Maybe when they're older, but since they're 3 and 2 all they can do is wander around the house and shit their pants.

Aaron Paul: Oppo's Resident Fake British Actor > OPPOsaurus WRX
02/06/2015 at 10:38

I LOL'd at that.

CKeffer > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 10:39

It's getting done now at least? Or if the BMW being immoble in the garage bugs her, you can sit down with her, and figure out a couple weekends to set aside for you to get the stuff installed so it's functional again. The fact of the matter is though, weddings take a shitload of planning, and thus time. Does it suck that it cuts into time to work on the car? Sure it does, but you're (hopefully) only going to be doing it once, and the car isn't going anywhere.

greenagain > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 10:39

So you choose not to believe all the bitter, divorced men older, and more experienced than you.

You're just gonna lower your 'sheep' head, and wander off to slaughter, signing up for a program with a greater than 50% failure rate.

Take a lesson from Lewis Hamilton. Even a rich, hot piece of ass isn't worth marrying at your young age.

Unless you become very successful you'll spend the majority of the ret of your life working, and the majority of what's left will be spent doing what your wife tells you to.

The Red Pill

OPPOsaurus WRX > Aaron Paul: Oppo's Resident Fake British Actor
02/06/2015 at 10:40

half the time i have to hold the door shut too. two 2.5 y/o dont leave any space

CKeffer > OPPOsaurus WRX
02/06/2015 at 10:40

So glad my wife doesn't want kids. Oh so very glad.

OPPOsaurus WRX > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 10:40

man your not trying had enough, my brother in law has my girls fetching him beverages.

Milky > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 10:45

#FirstWorldProblems

Party-vi > CKeffer
02/06/2015 at 10:46

That's my issue though - the car isn't going anywhere. I've got an 80 mile commute each day and I'd like to stop getting 20mpg in my behemoth of a Honda Pilot I'm relegated to driving each day. That, and the co-worker meetup thing tonight has fuck-all to do with the wedding as well.

You're right. I do need to talk to her about it.

Party-vi > greenagain
02/06/2015 at 10:49

That 50% is a fallacy. The divorce rate is far less than 40-50%; those figures came from someone's wild ass guess back in the '90s.

I don't profess to be an expert on marriage, but I see myself spending the rest of my life with this woman. It will be aggravating and at times I will wonder what the hell I was thinking, but without a doubt I know it's going to be one of the best decisions I ever make. I feel sorry that you don't have someone in your life with which you feel you can share it.

Party-vi > Milky
02/06/2015 at 10:50

#truefact

Jcarr > OPPOsaurus WRX
02/06/2015 at 10:51

Yup. I get more done on weeknights after the little guy goes to bed than I do on weekends.

BigBlock440 > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 11:02

I got married less than a year ago, but I planned on using my car as a wedding vehicle so my weekends were spent sanding, painting, and engine-swapping. Good news is my project car now moves under it's own power after 3 years or so. Bad news is I haven't had time to work on vehicles since.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 11:09

Do you all share a calendar yet? My wife and I use Google Calendar and sync it to our phones. Just find a open spot (next weekend?) and put Install Parts on the calendar and let her know that's what you're planning to then. If something comes up that conflicts, fine, but it's on her to ask you if you can do it another time, since you'd scheduled it for that time.

Seems unnecessary, but sometimes, it's the only way to get "your" time.

I'm very supportive of her when she wants to go out with her friends at times, and in turn, she's supportive of me taking weekend driving trips with the guys or going to the track occasionally. But with kids, our time is so locked up with sports, parties, etc., I've got to get my stuff on the calendar weeks or months in advance...

gas head > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 11:14

Sure you don't have a "cough-cough" sickness coming on?

BKosher84 > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 11:31

Bahahaa... Just wait until the marriage.. You think it's bad now?

fhrblig > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 11:33

LOL HETEROS.

Oh, who am I kidding. My partner and I don't have the same days off. I will make plans to do something, and then at the last minute he will give me some sort of task that keeps me from doing any of what I had planned. It only happens about 90% of the time, though.

Party-vi > fhrblig
02/06/2015 at 11:35

She used to work Tuesday to Saturday and it was f-ing awesome - Saturdays were alllllllll to myself and I could just parade around the house and garage not giving a fuck.

Party-vi > BKosher84
02/06/2015 at 11:35

WHAT HAVE I DONE!?

Trevor Slattery, ACTOR > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 11:41

That number is derived from the fact that in any given year let's say 50,000 couples get married. In that same year 25,000 couples get divorced.

So if you are just looking at some numbers, you can easily come to the 50% conclusion.

And this example is why when anybody starts barking out numbers I get touchy.

Now, on this car/women/time thing. Been married 14 years. Cars been on blocks for five. Good luck, fight the good fight. Once you have kids, then it gets REAL tough. "What? I have to get up at 8am to drive an hour for a soccer game? Then my other kids game is at 4pm? But when I was gonna...ahh, forget it."

You get used to it after a while. But don't let them give you a hard time about why your car is taking up space and not drivable. It is just as much their fault as yours.

BKosher84 > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 11:43

Haha, you'll be alright.. Marriage, kids, and family and all that stuff will completely outweigh anything you can do with a car fun-wise. I wouldn't trade what I have for the best, most fun car on the planet.

nermal > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 11:46

I can relate. My xmas present to myself this year was a small collection of parts for my motorcycle, which are still sitting next to it waiting to get put on. I'm usually too tired from work to want to mess with it during the week, and on the weekends the woman has stuff planned.

Sometimes I wish she would take up knitting or basket weaving or something. It's important for a guy to have alone time in the garage!

greenagain > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 12:18

I hate to burst your bubble, but there are plenty of recent stats.

Myself, and most every divorced guy I know figured it was "forever".
I'm plenty happy without needing a wife to share with. Besides, I have still have a remnant of my marriage, the 17 year old daughter that lives with me.

Party-vi > greenagain
02/06/2015 at 13:11

Kinja'd!!!

Pull up some studies that show a 50% divorce rate. I'll wait. In the mean time, here's an actual graph from an actual study.

greenagain > Party-vi
02/06/2015 at 13:32

Is that first time marriages, or all?

I won't do any digging, it's your funeral.

Party-vi > greenagain
02/06/2015 at 13:41

All marriages.

Just because you had a bad marriage doesn't mean marriage is bad.